Posted by Champaklal Dajibhai Mistry on October 13, 2006





  • At the start of any creation cylce of 4.32 billion years, a trinity of bRH`maa, viSH`ANu and shNkr manifest from the basic manifestation of creator bRH`m called naaraayAN....All of these manifestations are shk`ti (energy) forms. bRHmaa is the shk`ti  is creates all. viSH`ANu is the shk`ti  which sustains all created. And shNkr is the  which through death-birth recreates all created with naam (names) and ruup (forms) commensurate with the partaking of the kARm-fl (fruits of kARm performed in previous life journeys) in a life travel.
  • These 3 trinity shk`ti  - bRH`maa, viSH`ANu and shNkr did not know what to do. They were informed by mHaa-maayaa that she would give each of them specific shk`ti with which not only they would know what to do but also know how to do what they are ordained to do. mHaa-maayaa is the self-creating original shk`ti of creator bRH`m.
  • bRH`maa was given shk`ti called vED in the physical form of srsv`ti-DEvii and saaviTRii-Devi. viSH`ANu was given shkti called SHRii or lxmi-DEvii with 6 powers for procreation (sNtaan), to have lordship over others (AEssvARy), to have wealth (DHn), to connect to previous life journeys (aaDi), to have food (DHaan`y) and to have number of potentialities to perform task ordained (viARy) - all these powers necessary for providing sustenance of all created by bRH`maa. And shNkr was given shk`ti  called pRkruti which is a form of mHaa-maayaa which when activated by chEEtn`y creates for bRHmaa all that He wishes. The manifested form of pRkruti is pAArvti-DEVii.
  • When bRH`maa, viSH`ANu and shNkr were given their shktio in female form manifestations to perform their ordained functions they were told always to revere and respect each female form shk`ti . If they would fail to revere and respect the shkti then the shk`ti would just leave them and they would not be able to perform their ordained functions.
  • All creations as a male-female couple reproducing through sexual union have the same fundamental design and operating principles as of the above 3 trinity and their shk`ti. 
  • This is the reason why females have to be revered and respected by males.




  • In humans the male-female union called marraige defines functions, obligations and duties of both husband and wife in the ceremony called sp`t-pDi (click here to visit a summary of sp`t-pDi ceremony) .
  • All men and women in married life practicing vEDik lifestyles abide by the commitments of sp`t-pDi which are founded on knowledge of vED = sciences of creation and life
  • However in the current times called kli-yug, men and women are finding it difficult to uphold their obligations of spt-pad mainly through lack of knowledge of vED......
  • And the basic family unit based on married husband and wife is being seriously undermined.

On this knowledge-sharing PVAF web site there are many articles on the detrimental effect of kli-yug times on the humanity which is creating un-vEDik lifestyles in all parts of humanity from young to old, all races and all faith systems. 

And today PVAF publishing another story how women of today in industrialized countries are facing an increasing dilemma of WHETHER TO BE A WOMAN/WIFE/MOTHER based in the traditional and original sense as outlined in vED....And highlites  of the price for living by this woman dilemma are as follows:

  • mothers are continuously thinking and practicing increasingly depriving mothering their own children by giving mothering to paid and unpaid others.
  • This mothering deprivation is producing generations which have emotional and spiritual problems in interacting with their fellow humans.

Shortly put mothers want to be "husbands as discussed in a book called  "Get To Work, A Manifesto for Women of the World" by Linda Hirshman, a former philosophy professor at Brandeis University.

To read a short review of the book and also the thoughts of Judith Timson from Canadian Globe and Mail please click on the line outside the box.

PVAF also invites YOU to share your thoughts on this very important topic of MAN-WOMAN LIFE ROLE on this knowledge-sharing web site....just click on the POST A COMMENT button in the header of the news and write away....






Canadian Globe and Mail: August 2, 2006: JUDITH TIMSON

If you ask a woman whether she loves her children, chances are that, even if she's ready to send them to Siberia, she'll say "of course." Society demands that she declare her maternal love from the rooftops if necessary. (I've gone hoarse from that one.)

But ask if she loves her work and you may get silence. Or a conditional answer that she still puts "the family first."

Why is that? Because a woman's love for her work, says a controversial American academic and author, is "the love that dares not speak its name."

Linda Hirshman, a former philosophy professor at Brandeis University, wants women to stop worrying that they'll appear to be bad mothers and admit how much their work means to them. She even wants them to put work first.

She fomented a mommy-blogger blab fest, including an "I Hate Linda" website, when, late last year, she published a scathing essay in The American Prospect chiding highly educated professional women for leaving their jobs to look after their kids.

"Bounding home is not good for women and it's not good for the society," she wrote.

Moreover, if women continue to drop out of professions like law, she warned, then "it's only a matter of time until people figure out that women aren't a good bet for education and opportunity."

Her sinus-clearing essay (as one male commentator wryly put it) has now been expanded into an equally bracing book, Get To Work, A Manifesto for Women of the World, a little red-covered polemic that will make her detractors see even more red.

It is a sharp tirade against the wasted resources of all homeward-bound women who, as she sees it, are sacrificing their education, economic independence and a chance to attain real prestige and power through work by choosing to dwell solely in the land of "laundry and kissing boo boos."

Her research was limited to flipping through back issues of The New York Times wedding announcements and contacting elite women to find out, some eight years later, what they were up to. She found that 85 per cent of them, many with postgraduate degrees and sterling professional credentials, had left the world of "serious adult work" to raise their children.

Of course, unlike many women, they had married big earners and could afford to go home. Yet, in Ms. Hirshman's all-or-nothing view, any woman who leaves a challenging job to go home to tend her kids instead of using the full resources of her mind does not have "a flourishing life."

Get To Work could be viewed as just another patronizing lecture to women on how to live their lives, with a twist: This one doesn't romanticize the family, it romanticizes the job. She gives little weight to the importance of hands-on mothering. Its tone is such that I was surprised to learn she has a grown daughter, two stepdaughters and a second husband to whom she has been "happily married" for 17 years.

Yet Get To Work also rings profoundly true to me on several fronts.

Ms. Hirshman maintains that "the thickest glass ceiling is at home" and that men will continue to avoid doing their fair share -- 50 per cent -- of housework and child-rearing as long as women allow them to --which most of us do. She urges young women to seriously look at a potential marriage partner's attitudes toward domestic equality and to negotiate a fair deal before walking down an aisle.

If men are forced into serious household duty, then corporations will no longer be able to expect them to work 80-hour weeks, she says, and voilą, the work/life balance problem will be solved.

But it's not that simple. When my children were young, I had a helpful husband and, at different times, varying child care situations -- all with pretty good results. But when push came to shove and one of us needed to stay home with a sick child, I, like many women I knew, was the one who rearranged my schedule. That was the cold, hard reality of our working lives.

However, a recent Statistics Canada study indicated there could be significant change on the domestic front. It said that Canadians are working more than they were 10 years ago, with women putting in extra hours at the office and their male counterparts increasingly pitching in with the cooking and cleaning. For men, the longer working hours were "almost entirely from unpaid work around the house" while the increase among women was from paid work.

Does this mean, as one news report said, "that traditional divisions of labour are blurring?" I see too many men walking their kids to daycare or spending time with them in the park to doubt that men are doing more domestic duty than in the past.

It's probably not just fairness that has driven men to this. It's because their wives simply aren't there. Not only are the wives working longer hours, some of them are even making more money. Salary rules. So here's another new cold, hard reality: If the woman makes more money than the man, he will be pushing a swing set.

But what if you don't want to be the one at the office working your fingers to the bone at a high-paying job just to justify your education? The truth is that not everyone can achieve real power and prestige through work, and not everyone -- male or female -- wants to.

Ms. Hirshman is not wrong when she urges women to take their work very seriously. Never quit a job until you have another one (our own mothers would have given us this advice). Bargain "relentlessly" for a just household (can you do this without turning your marriage into a battlefield?).

But she also advises them to "consider a reproductive strike" and have only one child.

What about biology -- about the desire for a bigger family, the deep and legitimate need many women have to be with their very young children, to be the one who cuddles them and, yes, kisses their boo boos? And what about the lack of attention and care that many modern children live with? Their lives need to flourish as well.

When my children were young, I threw the laundry in, kissed the boo-boos and also did meaningful work -- but I sacrificed income and opportunity by becoming self-employed, because, once I had children, the one thing I knew I had to do was control my own hours. Not every woman can do this. But, in Ms. Hirshman's view, I was still not working to the top of my abilities or earning potential.

Much of what Ms. Hirshman says is difficult to read because it's hard and cold and not cuddly at all. She's saying that if men don't step away from the work arena to have kids, then women shouldn't either, or they will never have as much power in the world as men. But she's also saying that until men step up to their domestic responsibilities, women will never equal them in the outside world.

Get To Work may be a take-no-prisoners approach, but it reinforces how important fulfilling work is in anyone's life, male or female. We are not doing our daughters a favour if we don't impress upon them the need to use their education to get the best and even highest-paying job possible. To take work seriously, to love what they do, and to guard and to value it in their lives.

Ms. Hirshman ends her book with an anecdote about a couple of married doctors. The wife works at her medical practice part-time "which enables her to spend time with their children and do most of the errands and housework as well as volunteering at a soup kitchen." Nothing wrong with that.

The husband, on the other hand, practises medicine full-time, working very long hours, sometimes sacrificing his time with his family.

It turns out he's doing research on children's cancer. Ms. Hirshman concludes: "So there it is. He probably won't, but he just may, find a cure for cancer. And she never will."

I'd like to argue with that, but, somehow, I can't.


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