SHYNESS THE THIRD BIGGEST MENTAL HEALTH CARE PROBLEM ARE YOU BORN WITH IT? THEN YOU ARE LOOSING SO MUCH IN LIFE WHAT IS SHYNESS?: In humans, shyness is a feeling of insecurity and awkwardness that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. In zoology, shy generally means "tends to avoid human beings"; Shyness is most likely to occur during unfamiliar situations. Since many shy people thus avoid these situations in order to avoid feeling uncomfortable and inept, the situation remains unfamiliar and the shyness perpetuates itself. Shyness may also fade with time if the parents and teachers nurture the child to recognize and deal with shyness. CAUSE OF SHYNESS The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic. However, there is also evidence that the environment in which a person is raised can affect their shyness. Shyness can originate after a person has experienced a physical anxiety reaction; at other times, shyness seems to develop first and then later causes physical symptoms of anxiety. The genetics of shyness is a relatively small area of research that has been receiving an even smaller amount of attention, although papers on the biological bases of shyness date back at least to 1988.Several genetic links to shyness are current areas of research. Shyness is not directly related to introversion. Introverts choose to avoid social situations because they derive no reward from them [citation needed], and may find the extra sensory input overwhelming. Shy people fear such situations and feel that they must avoid them DEGREE OF SHYNESS People experience shyness to different degrees. For example, an actor may be loud and bold on stage, but shy in an interview. In addition, people may feel shy around certain people and not others. For instance, one may be outgoing with friends, but shy toward someone of their preferred sex. EFFECTS OF SHYNESS Shy people tend to perceive their own shyness as a negative trait and many people are uneasy with shyness, especially in cultures that value individuality and taking charge. On the other hand, many shy people are perceived to be good listeners and are more likely to think before they speak. Furthermore, boldness, the opposite of shyness, may cause its own problems, such as impertinence or inappropriate behavior. Often, shyness may be mistaken with aggressively, arrogance or introversion due to the shy person's attempts to avoid the uneasy situation. (From Wikipedia-the free online encyclopedia. To read the entire article please click on the here or read the entire article on this knowledge-sharing PVAF web site on the next page....   PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS OF SHYNESS palpitations tremors sweating diarrhea confusion blushing Are you uncomfortable or embarrassed at being the centre of attention? Do you find it hard to interact with people? "I just hate being put on the spot" "I would avoid courses and seminars because the thought of having to stand up and introduce myself filled me with dread" "I go to pieces at interviews, I know I can do the job but I panic and the words just don't come out right" "My friend wanted to take me to a party to meet lots of new people, my idea of hell!" LOOSING OPPORTUNITIES IN LIFE DUE TO SHYNESS Whenever opportunity knocked, Montreal graphic artist Ana Garza-Robillard found herself too shy to answer. "Even when I was a child, I was always afraid when I had to meet people. I realized that I was wasting big opportunities by being so shy. I was afraid to make new contacts and just talked with people I already knew," Ms. Garza-Robillard says. "Unless I did something, I was not going to get anywhere." Ms. Garza-Robillard is not alone. Up to 40 per cent of people experience feelings of shyness to the extent that it can get in the way of their career success, says Ilise Benun, president of Hoboken, N.J.-based consultancy Marketing Mentor and the author of a new book, "Stop Pushing Me Around", about conquering shyness. HOW TO DEAL WITH SHYNESS IN REAL LIFE The following are some of the ideas  for your to break out from the shell of shyness and live a full life with the potentials you have: Know your demons Commit to making a change One small change at a time Set targets Create lots of options Don't bow to the competition Spend time preparing Visualize support Ask for honest feedback Review progress Please click on the line outside this box to enlighten more about how to remove deal use the above ideas with shyness in your life and not let the opportunities slip away TO MAKE YOUR TOMORROW HAPPIER THAN  TODAY by living your life to full potential that the Creator has blessed you with....

EMERGE FROM SHELL OF SHYNESS By learning to identify situations when it is holding you back, you can minimize its paralyzing effects Canadian Globe and Mail: August 4, 2006: WALLACE IMMEN Whenever opportunity knocked, Montreal graphic artist Ana Garza-Robillard found herself too shy to answer. "Even when I was a child, I was always afraid when I had to meet people," she says. That's one big reason why, when it came time to plot a career, Ms. Garza-Robillard decided to work independently by setting up her own graphic design business in Montreal, now known as Mobius2 Creative Studio. But she soon found that, even when you work for yourself, doing business requires meeting a lot of people. Just following up with clients put her out of her comfort zone, so she preferred to deal with them by phone, she says. And she regularly avoided making pitches to new clients or making presentations at trade events that could have raised her profile. "I realized that I was wasting big opportunities by being so shy. I was afraid to make new contacts and just talked with people I already knew," Ms. Garza-Robillard says. "Unless I did something, I was not going to get anywhere." Ms. Garza-Robillard is not alone. Up to 40 per cent of people experience feelings of shyness to the extent that it can get in the way of their career success, says Ilise Benun, president of Hoboken, N.J.-based consultancy Marketing Mentor and the author of a new book, Stop Pushing Me Around, about conquering shyness. Shyness comes from an underlying fear and uncertainty that makes those suffering from it avoid situations involving unfamiliar people or situations, Ms. Benun says. And it can have all sorts of repercussions at work: Shyness may make people beg off making a speech or presentation, avoid asking for a raise even if they believe they deserve it and be too unsure of themselves to aspire to leadership roles. Almost everyone is shy to some extent in certain situations. Ms. Benun says. It's extremely common for people who are dynamic in their everyday job to turn very uncertain in an unknown situation out of fear they will make a mistake or look incompetent. This can actually make people stay at a job they dislike, rather than face the prospect of interviewing for a much better position somewhere else. The good news is that shyness is not genetic but, rather, behaviour you develop based on experiences in your life, says Ms. Benun, who regularly runs assertiveness workshops in Canada. That means if you learn to identify situations in which underlying shyness is holding you back, you can minimize its paralyzing effects.         Here's her formula for emerging from the shell of shyness: Know your demons Learn to recognize situations that typically make you feel shy and how you habitually react to them, for example, by avoiding them or not speaking up. Commit to making a change The next time a situation comes up that makes you feel shy, vow to try a different approach, such as speaking up rather than staying silent. Making such changes will, over time, increase your confidence. One small change at a time "The reason people remain shy is they have built it up into a huge, immovable thing to overcome, and they decide it is too big a challenge to even think about it," Ms. Benun says. Making small changes expands your comfort zone and creates the momentum to make big progress over time. Set targets Create a time frame for taking concrete actions on goals you want to achieve. For instance, "meet a new person daily" or "attend two networking events monthly." Create lots of options If you give yourself many opportunities to interact with people, each one won't carry as much weight and will therefore be less stressful. Don't bow to the competition Don't assume that other people have more right to speak up because they appear more confident than you. In fact, your input may be more valuable than anything they have to offer. Spend time preparing The better you know your stuff, the more confident you will feel when the time comes to present it. Visualize support Instead of imagining a meeting as a place where you might end up being interrogated and judged, imagine it as a circle of colleagues all there to help you. With practice, that will become your reality. Ask for honest feedback Shy people tend to dwell so much on their negatives that they fail to see their positives, Ms. Benun says. Seeking input from others will draw out positive things they see in you, and give you more confidence to overcome your shyness. Review progress Keep a log of your goals and review daily, or at least weekly, marking down progress you've made. Every success will make you more confident, Ms. Benun says. "Over time, with persistence, a step here and a step there you're a shy person who starts conversations and is not afraid to move ahead in a career," she says. Such moves have worked for Ms. Garza-Robillard. By confronting her demons, she says she has not only expanded her career horizons but now looks forward to meeting people, rather than shying away from them. It's taken two years, since she signed up for one of Ms. Benun's workshops in Montreal, which led to her joining two networking groups where she has pushed herself to meet new people regularly. She finds she no longer feels self-conscious when mingling. Her shyness still lurks in new situations, but she's learned to push it off centre stage, Ms. Garza-Robillard says. "Having experiences that are good experiences helps make me feel more confident about the next encounter." And that has led to new opportunities. She recently decided to form a partnership with another designer to expand her business, and is having meetings regularly to line up larger clients. "Before, if you has asked me to talk about my shyness, I never would have said yes," she says. But now she believes her experience can help others in the same situation. "I decided I literally cannot afford to be shy any more." © The Globe and Mail. Shyness From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia In humans, shyness is a feeling of insecurity and awkwardness that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. In zoology, shy generally means "tends to avoid human beings"; see cryptic. Shyness is most likely to occur during unfamiliar situations. Since many shy people thus avoid these situations in order to avoid feeling uncomfortable and inept, the situation remains unfamiliar and the shyness perpetuates itself. Shyness may also fade with time. A child who is shy toward strangers, for instance, may eventually come to lose this trait when older. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic. However, there is also evidence that the environment in which a person is raised can affect their shyness. Shyness can originate after a person has experienced a physical anxiety reaction; at other times, shyness seems to develop first and then later causes physical symptoms of anxiety. People experience shyness to different degrees. For example, an actor may be loud and bold on stage, but shy in an interview. In addition, people may feel shy around certain people and not others. For instance, one may be outgoing with friends, but shy toward someone of their preferred sex. Shy people tend to perceive their own shyness as a negative trait and many people are uneasy with shyness, especially in cultures that value individuality and taking charge. On the other hand, many shy people are perceived to be good listeners and are more likely to think before they speak. Furthermore, boldness, the opposite of shyness, may cause its own problems, such as impertinence or inappropriate behavior. Often, shyness may be mistaken with aggressivity, arrogancy or introversion due to the shy person's attempts to avoid the uneasy situation. Shyness is not directly related to introversion. Introverts choose to avoid social situations because they derive no reward from them [citation needed], and may find the extra sensory input overwhelming. Shy people fear such situations and feel that they must avoid them [citation needed]. Contents [hide] 1 Genetics of shyness 2 See also 3 References 4 External links Genetics of shyness The genetics of shyness is a relatively small area of research that has been receiving an even smaller amount of attention, although papers on the biological bases of shyness date back at least to 1988. Some research has indicated that shyness and aggression are related – through long and short forms of the gene DRD4, though considerably more research on this is needed. Further, it has been suggested that shyness and social phobia (the distinction between the two is becoming ever more blurred) are related to obsessive-compulsive disorder. As with other studies of behavioral genetics, the study of shyness is complicated by the number of genes involved in, and the confusion in defining, the phenotype. Naming the phenotype – and translation of terms between genetics and psychology – also causes problems. In some research, "behavioral inhibition" is studied, in others anxiety or social inhibition is. One solution to this problem is to study the genetics of underlying traits, such as "anxious temperament." Several genetic links to shyness are current areas of research. One of the most promising is the serotonin transporter promoter region polymorphism (5-HTTLPR), the long form of which has been shown to be highly correlated with shyness in grade school children. Previous studies had shown a connection between this form of the gene and both obsessive-compulsive disorder and autism. Mouse models have also been used, to derive genes suitable for further study in humans; one such gene, the glutamic acid decarboxylase gene (which encodes an enzyme that functions in GABA synthesis), has so far been shown to have some association with behavioral inhibition. Another gene, the dopamine D4 receptor gene (DRD4) exon III polymorphism, had been the subject of studies in both shyness and aggression, and is currently the subject of studies on the "novelty seeking" trait. A 1996 study of anxiety-related traits (shyness being one of these) remarked that, "Although twin studies have indicated that individual variation in measures of anxiety-related personality traits is 40-60% heritable, none of the relevant genes has yet been identified," and that "10 to 15 genes might be predicted to be involved" in the anxiety trait. Progress has been made since then, especially in identifying other potential genes involved in personality traits, but there has been little progress made towards confirming these relationships. The long version of the 5-HTT gene-linked polymorphic region (5-HTTLPR) is now postulated to be correlated with shyness, but in the 1996 study, the short version was shown to be related to anxiety-based traits. This confusion and contradiction does not oppose the genetic basis of personality traits, but does emphasize the amount of research there is still to be done before the bases of even one or two of these characteristics can be identified. [edit] See also Love-shyness Social anxiety Selective mutism Avoidant personality disorder [edit] References Arbelle, Shoshana; Benjamin, Jonathan; Golin, Moshe; Kremer, Ilana; Belmaker, Robert H.; Ebstein, Richard: Relation of shyness in grade school children to the genotype for the long form of the serotonin transporter promoter region polymorphism. The American Journal of Psychiatry 2003; 160(4): 671-676. Kluger, A. N.; Siegfried, Z.; Epbstein, R. P.: A meta-analysis of the association between DRD4 polymorphism and novelty seeking. Molecular Psychiatry 2002; 7: 712-717. Lesch, Klaus-Peter; Bengal, Dietmar; Heils, Armin; Sabol, Sue Z.; Greenberg, Benjamin D.; Petri, Susanne; Benjamin, Jonathan; Muller, Clemens R.; Hamer, Dean H.; Murphy, Dennis L.: Association of anxiety-related traits with a polymorphism in the serotonin transporter gene regulatory region. Science 1996; 274(5292): 1527-1531. Smoller, Jordan W.; Rosenbaum, Jerold F.; Biederman, Joseph; Susswein, Lisa S.; Kennedy, John; Kagan, Jerome; Snidman, Nancy; Laird, Nan; Tsuang, Ming T.; Faraone, Stephen V.; Schwarz, Alysandra; Slaugenhaupt, Susan A.: Genetic association analysis of behavioral inhibition using candidate loci from mouse models. American Journal of Medical Genetics 2001; 105: 226-235. [edit] External links Lynn Henderson and Philip Zimbardo: "Shyness". Entry in Encyclopedia of Mental Health, Academic Press, San Diego, CA (in press) alt.support.shyness FAQ Liebowitz Social Anxiety Scale (LSAS-SR)   Emotions Acceptance • Affection • Ambivalence • Anger • Angst • Anticipation • Anxiety • Apathy • Bitterness • Boredom • Calmness • Compersion • Confusion • Depression • Disappointment • Disgust • Doubt • Ecstasy • Embarrassment • Emptiness • Enmity • Ennui • Enthusiasm • Envy • Epiphany • Fanaticism • Fear • Frustration • Gratification • Gratitude • Grief • Guilt • Happiness • Hate • Homesickness • Hope • Horror • Humiliation • Jealousy • Limerence • Loneliness • Love • Lust • Melancholia • Panic • Pity • Regret • Rejection • Remorse • Repentance • Righteous indignation • Self-pity • Serenity • Shame • Shyness • Suffering • Surprise Retrieved from "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shyness" Categories: Articles needing sources | Shyness | Social psychology This page was last modified 00:32, 5 August 2006. 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