HUSBAND-WIFE BOND....DO EXISTS IN kli-yug...HOWEVER IN A MINORITY.....
Posted by Vishva News Reporter on March 5, 2009

 


WHAT LOVE SHOULD BE BETWEEN A HUSBAND AND A WIFE...


It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On exam it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had a doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer Disease.

As we talked, and I finished dressing his wound, I asked if she would be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him. "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"

He smiled as he patted my hand and said. "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love all I want in their life."

True love is neither physical, nor romantic.

True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there are some that come along that have an important message, and this is one of those kind.


Posted by: "Riza Jaffer" Riza Jaffer on EAcircle@yahoogroups.com
Sun Feb 3, 2008 5:24 pm (PST)
A Doctor's Story


(This entire news story was forwarded for posting on this knowledge-sharing PVAF web site... along with the knowledge from the study of life-giving and life-saving vED sciences by Shrii Champaklal Dajibhai Mistry of Edmonton, Alberta, Canada....PVAF thanks Shrii Champaklal for the continuing contribution to PVAF....

And PVAF also invites YOU, all the patrons of PVAF to share your life knowledge on this PVAF web site....simply to make somebody's tomorrow happier than today with life-enhancing knowledge....they say KNOWLEDGE IS POWER....

So empower this humanity to live with knowledge in this post-Enlightenment era of this 21st century....) 
vED OF HUSBAND AND WIFE BOND IN MARRAIGE....

If you are reading this news story in living in western civilization then...it will bring tears to your heart and ears...if you are alive daily with human essence not veiled by the rat race for material enjoyment...based on current western life philosophy of the X, Y and the Millennium Generations which is 3-pronged:

1. I NEED WHAT I WANT...
2. I WILL GET WHAT I WANT AT ANY COST...
3. AND I WILL GET WHAT I WANT NOW.....


The above daily life philosophy is primarily the result of over 50 percent of first-time marriages in western culture ending up in divorce....80 percent of the second and third time marriages ending in divorce...

The above is happening despite the normal marriage vows in western culture which includes:

- stay married till death do us apart;
- take care of each other in health and sickness;
- stay with each other in wealth and poverty
- practicing the Commandments relating to marriage in the 10 Commandments.....
- the most important...getting married simply because "WE LOVE EACH OTHER"......


The study of vED teaches the corpus of complete and holistic science knowledge about
-  how to live life to make one's tomorrow happier than today with all science knowledge about...
how we are created,
-  how we should be sustained in our entire life journey comprising of 4-aashram and
-   how we should live this life-journey so that our next life-journeys will be happier than this life-journey.....


But in the present vEDik time era we live in which is called kli-yug, it has been forecast that humanity will endeavor its best not live by any other life science knowledge other than the knowledge about power and wealth creation at any cost....even cost of another fellow and dear human lifestyle and at extreme the life itself....and the reason for this forecast is that majority of life-travelers in kli-yug are classified in vED sciences as "released from hell" by a most generous and sort of Presidential pardon from our Creator with a mutual promise that one will travel with all the rules and regulations of DHARm....and without breaking the DHARm rules and regulations including the very basic DHARm rule:

NEVER TO HURT ANYBODY WITH THOUGHTS, WORDS OR kARm (physical actions of body, mind and soul)....

Hell in vED is defined as a place where one's aat`maa (soul) is taken by ym-dut (messengers of ym-raaj (Death) at the behest of  ym-raaj and chiTRgupta who is the book-keeper of all kARm of every aat`maa in every life-journey.....and in Hell  the aat`maa is made to realize that if you harm others you have to experience the same harm somewhere, sometime in your future tomorrow which could be future life-journeys in infinite variety of bodies....and this message is relayed in 30 kror (330 million) techniques of what we humans call "punishment"...but which is really "teachings"...and these teachings last for at least 30 times the duration of the harm actually imparted to others because in Hell each day is equivalent to 30 humans days..... 
 

In the left- lane, fast-paced current life-style in western civilization with single focus of power and wealth procurement for ONE-SELF at any cost.....just to continue the theme of this news story which is HUSBAND-WIFE bond which is the fundamental bond of family, society and nation.... which creates and preserves the sacredness of life for a happier tomorrow if nothing else...PVAF re-presents the vows taken by a bride and bridegroom in a vEDik marriage ceremony called sp`t-pdi (walking seven steps together)....in most cultures it is recognized that true and lasting friendship can be formed by two persons walking together three steps....

.....please click on the next line to enlighten YOURSELF of the vEDik marriage vows of seven-steps....with a prayer that this understanding and application of this understanding  everyday in life will make each tomorrow of YOUR marriage happier than today....



 

 

  

A Hindu marriage ceremony from a Rajput wedding
A vEDik vivaaH ceremony

sp`t-pDi viDHi
of
 
vivaaH sNskaar

vivaaH (marriage) is the 15th of the total of 16 sNskaar a personal living vEDik lifestyle person undergoes from conception to death. A sNskaar is a rite ceremony performed on a person as prescribed in vED and shaasTR to pass from one stage of life to another such as conception, pre-birth, birth, first haircut, first eating of food other than mother's milk, starting and completing education....sNskaar ceremonies include acknowledging and requesting with prayers, yGN, offerings and mNTR continuing relationship with DEv (gods) and DEvii (goddesses) who provide all the functional powers and sustenance a physical human body needs to live, piTRUo (ancestors) who bless the family lineage with prosperity, guru (teachers) who provide education and knowledge and parents.....

sp't-pDi viDHi consists of bride and bridegroom walking seven steps together making seven commitments to each other by which they would live their wedded life. This viDHi (rite) is performed towards the end of the vivaaH and completion of this rite sanctifies and seals the vivaaH as valid under the prescription of vED and shaasTR which prescribes the sciences of creation and life and by which all humanity should live their various lifestyles and life stages for harmonious co-existence among humanity and with all other creations.    

In this sp't-pDi viDHi the bridegroom is assumed as the manifestation of viSH`ANu who is the protector and sustainer of the world.

     

"om ekmise vishnustava nayatu"

THE BRIDEGROOM SAYS

 "om ekmise vishnustava nayatu"

THE BRIDE SAYS

STEP 1: 

"I ask you to step into the first circle to request you to look after my household property including all the sustenance stored in there".

"You are putting under my care whatever wealth and sustenance you have in your house. With this responsibility, I will truly serve your parents, sister and other relatives". 
STEP 2:

"I ask you to step into the second circle  to strengthen me in every kARm to be performed by me. "

"My husband, you now look stronger than ever before. Therefore, I will be respected in my father-in-law's family

While nurturing and nourishing your family, I will make the foundation of the family sturdier. I will always be sweet-tongued. I will never utter a single biting word. In adversity I will be forbearing. In your happiness I will be happy. In your unhappiness I will be unhappy." 

STEP 3:

"I ask you to step into the third circle for prosperity.

I, your husband, who is for you  an embodiment of viSH`ANu, expressly herewith make you the mistress of my property"

" I will always stay pure in my mind for you and you will be my only kaam-saathi (lover). No other man will ever enter my mind." 
STEP 4:

"I ask you to step into the fourth circle for our mutual happiness.

Whatever is conducive to my well-being is now totally dependant on you". 

"All my adornments will all be to please you and for our mutual kaam-kriyaa (activities of pleasures and recreation).

These adornments will include the chaandalo, the sixteen kinds of make-up with flowers, jewellery, clothes, perfumes, etc".

STEP 5:

"I request you to enter the fifth circle for the well-being of my power, property and means to provide for my family's lively-hood, growth and prosperity.  

You will be the care-giver to that power, property and the means I possess".

"I, along with my friends, will always zealously worship and pray for your well-being and the well-being of your power, property and means to provide for our family."  
STEP 6:

"I now want you to step into the sixth circle for you to always enjoy pleasures of the six seasons".

"Wherever you are, either performing yGN or kARm, I will be there to serve you and render you all possible help".
STEP 7:

"I request you to step into the final seventh circle thus becoming my friend forever. 

As my friend, I request you to represent me in this world and also in all the seven worlds. You will represent me with your pti-vRt (fidelity), DHARm (righteousness) and nmRtaa (humbleness), lj`jaa  (sacredness) and mARyaaDaa (limits of DHARm).

You will represent me with your  pti-vRt (fidelity), DHARm (righteousness) and nmRtaa (humbleness), lj`jaa  (sacredness) and mARyaaDaa (limits of DHARm) and thus be famous among all for this".

 

O, pti-DEv ( epithet for husband), today my joys have no bounds because:
  • "All those present here are witnesses to our marriage today; and  
  • "That today you became my husband at this viDHi performed strictly in accordance with vEDik injunctions ordained by bRH`maa".

.......om shaanti shaanti.....om tt st....

om shaanti shaanti.....om tt st....

 

NOTES:

1. The above is life educational preparation by SHRii Champaklal Dajibhai Mistry, PVAF Chair for Education Development from "The Vivaah" by Pundit Bhaiyaram Sarma, Translated  by R. C. Prasad.

2. These mNTR for sp't-pDi viDHi are as collected and compiled by Ramdata from sNskrut  into Hindi in accordance with prskr grHy-suTR

3.. The presentation above is of "draft" nature and the final version is being prepared for more refinement of understanding the meaning and essence of the viDHi. However, the essence of the principles of viDHi remains unchanged. The refinement will be for including more sNskrut words in the text with equivalent English meanings as many sNskrut language words can not be translated directly into English due to lack of the concepts thereof in English culture and lifestyle.

4. All sNskrut words in bold, italics transliterated into English. The pronunciation of the transliteration can be studied in the transliteration table on this PVAF web site under VEDA page by clicking here

5. Original Posting: August 3, 2006: Update:

 



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