In veDik lifestyle, as can
be read from puraaANo and
itihaas which are part of veD
texts....a woman had god ordained right to choose her life mate husband with the
permission, guidance, counseling and blessing of her father and
mother...this right and the entire process thereby is called
a maiden can opt to choose her future husband in a some of the following ways:
- the father of the maiden invites prospective men to the
svyMvr assembly where the maiden
can make a choice just by looking at the prospective husbands whose history
and background she knows in advance...this is the magic of find your soul mate
at the first sight.... or
- the maiden can challenge man to a competition of intelligence or physical
strength and who ever wins against her becomes her husband, a son of paaNdvo's
bhim got her wife this way or
- the father of the maiden can arrange a competition for prospective
husbands and who ever wins the competition becomes her husband...this was the
method used in case of sitaa-devi,
who could lift and string the bow gifted by
shiv-Dev to her father jnk-raajaa
but no other human could do so and SRii raam
won that contest...or in case of
DRaoupaDi one who could shoot an overhead
moving target of a fish with an arrow looking at the reflection of the moving
target on the ground and aARjun,
one of the paaNdvo brothers won
Now in bhaarat (India), a version
of svyMvr....we can call mutual
svyMvr is becoming a practice through
the base of Internet technology....and still the parents are heavily involved in
guiding and counseling the to be married as it is in
veDik lifestyle....the other
veDik tradition of a boy asking for girl's hand is also still
very much alive.....read about this old age svyMvr
veDik lifestyle coming
alive by clicking on the next line.........
HINDUISM TODAY.....MUMBAI, INDIA, February 14, 2003:
Matches Made in Haven and
Cyberspace Meet Face to Face
Shaadi.com has taken their site from cyberspace to a brick and
mortar location by holding a swayamvara in the cities of Mumbai, New Delhi,
Chennai and Kolkata.
A swayamvara is a Hindu custom in which a girl chooses her own
husband from an assembled group of prospects, though in this case the choosing
Starting on February 14, young men and women who are registered
with the website meet in a room sitting in separate rows of chairs facing each
other. They can quickly bring up the profile on an accessible computer of
someone they may wish to meet.
Shaadi.com has made 50-60 matches and they hope to have brought at
least 1,000 couples together during the next few days.
For more on the above please click the red highlite and read the
HINUDSTAN TIMES or
click on the next line......
Dotcom’s marriage mela a hit
Mumbai, February 14
is celebrating Valentine's day by holding a swayamvara.
Young men and women (who were registered with the website) were sitting in
separate rows of chairs facing each other at the swayamvara on Friday. If they
liked someone, they could read their profiles on the computers lined up.
This exercise, which will continue for 10 days, will move next to New Delhi,
then Chennai, then Kolkata. Having "fixed" at least 50-60 matches every week so
is hoping for at least 1000 by the end of the 10 days.
Parents were present too in large numbers on Friday at the swayamvara site,
which was decorated with palm fronds.
A worried Gujarati with a denim-clad daughter said: "No Muslims or Christians,
please. Others will do".
But though there have been some Muslim visitors to the website, none were
present at the swayamvara on Friday. Their day is February 19. Vandana Asija,
the manager of the show, said: "There is no orthodoxy here and people coming to
this swayamvara are generally liberal and modern in their outlook. Still, we
find Muslims will not be part of any cosmopolitan matchmaking and even within
themselves a Shia does not want a Sunni or otherwise".
Happy over the success of the show, Asija said: "We have had 300 per cent more
response for the swayamvara than we usually do on our website. There is more
demand here for and from NRIs. Traditional Indian values along with a Western,
modern outlook is at a premium".
"The metros are so far more responsive. Smaller towns have yet to realise we are
offering a dignified way of choosing your mate," said Asija.