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vivaaH = MARRIAGE....
ENSURES PROSPERITY AND HAPPINESS IN LIFE
IF LIVED WITH DHARm
veD is a
sNskRUt language word which means the
SCIENCES OF CREATION AND LIFE....As per
veD,
vivaaH = Marriage is a union of a human male and female to
procreate jointly and to provide nourishment for progressive advancement
of the procreation and the rest of the creation the procreation lives in.....The
union is sanctioned and sanctified by veDik
ceremony called vivaaH...During
the vivaaH ceremony there are seven
sets of commitments that the bride and bridegroom makes to each other for their
individual and joint responsibilities of a married life ....The individual and
joint responsibilities of the bride and the bridegroom are towards each other,
their children, their relatives and the entire creation they live in.....These
commitments are made in the presence of agni-daev
who presides and sanctifies the union... The
vivaaH ceremony also transits the bride
and bridegroom form their bRH`mchaaARy aaSRm
(childhood and youth stage) to gRUHs`TH aaSRm
(adult stage of married couple life in which they sets up household
of their own in their community).....And the married couple also bears the
responsibility of supporting all the other 3 aaSRm
of life - bRHmchaary, vnspr
and sNyaasi.....You can learn
more about vivaaH ceremony and about
the 4 aaSRm in life by visiting the
veD page, the archives of
TODAY'S PRAYER, TODAY'S VED LESSON and
AASHRM NEWS on this web site......OR
FOR MORE KNOWLEDGE ON vivaaH = MARRIAGE, PLEASE EMAIL TO
PVAF veD STUDIES........by
clicking on the preceding red hilite.....
Thus a vivaaH = marriage is not a
contract or a man-made institution is being interpreted in the liberalism and
laissez faire of the western civilization in the last 50 years....Marriage is as
sacred as life itself because it ensures nourishment, continuance and sustenance
of life and creation in perpetuity....And is to be lived for a life time and as
per veD it can carry on for seven
life times or even all life times as is the case with
vshiSH`TH-muni and his wife
aruANdhaati who have been married for about 2.2 billion years in
this creation cylce called kl`p in
veD which lasts for 4.32 billion years.....
The current time era we live in called kli-yug
in veD effects
vivaaH negatively as
DHARm is very difficult to be upheld
in life by humans...and if life is not lived by
DHARm then life becomes corrupted and life quality could slide to
suffering and pain and destruction.....And we see the
vivaaH becoming very unstable and unhappy as a country becomes
more industrialized....The destructive phenomenon in vivaaH is also observed in
peoples who migrate from non-industrialized to industrialized societies...and it
takes only a generation or two to see the destruction effects in
vivaaH after migration...
PVAF invites YOU to share your
ideas on the phenomenon which is increasingly destroying vivaaH in
industrialized countries....just click on the POST A
COMMENT button in the header of this news posting and share away....
And to read about an example of this destructive phenomenon in vivaaH in the
Canadian multi-cultural society which is dominated by Christian majority of
marriage concept please click on the next hilite to read an article on
Canadian
Globe & Mail.....or click on the next
line to read the article on this PVAF web site.....
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Canadian divorce rates
declining:
People looking for stability, security in uncertain times, experts say
By GLORIA GALLOWAY
Canadian
Globe & Mail: Wednesday, May 5, 2004 - Page A7
"Till death do us part" seems to be having more resonance among Canadian
couples, as new figures show the national divorce rate in decline after three
consecutive years of growth.
Some of the drop documented by Statistics Canada yesterday can be attributed to
a corresponding dip in the number of marriages. But the phenomenon goes beyond
the simple fact of fewer weddings leading to fewer splits.
Experts say Canadians, who have lived through almost two decades of relaxed
divorce laws, have learned that breaking up really can
be hard to do.
And some suggest the uncertainty created by events such as the terrorist attacks
of Sept. 11, 2001, make people more willing to embrace
those parts of their lives that offer security and stability.
"I think that the earlier decades of extreme liberalism and laissez faire with
respect to marriage and divorce have come and gone," said Anne-Marie Ambert, a
professor at York University in Toronto, who is one of the nation's foremost
experts on marriage.
The new study found that the actual number of divorces registered across the
country fell to 70,155 from 71,144 between 2000 and 2002, while the population
expanded. And even Quebec -- where the divorce rate has for years outpaced that
of the rest of the country -- showed a decline.
"People have seen that divorce is necessary in some situations and in other
situations it's not," Dr. Ambert said. "A lot of people
are far worse off after the divorce than they were when they were married."
So when it comes to parting, "they think twice about it," said Dr. Ambert, who
predicts the national divorce rate will remain relatively stable over the coming
decade.
Betty Trott teaches the philosophy of sex and love at Ryerson University in
Toronto. She said the trend is likely tied to the fact that living together
without marriage has become more common.
But Dr. Trott said the times in which we live have also had an impact. The
events of "9/11 upset everybody and I think [increased] the sense of wanting
stability in our lives."
As a result, she said, those who do get married may be more committed to making
it work because divorcing means problems associated with being a single parent
and a host of other concerns.
That has caused a feeling of "boy, if you're going to lock in, lock in," she
said. "Don't just kind of bounce through this and think 'I can cope,' because
none of us are sure we can cope."
Phil Callaway of Three Hills, Alta., the author of a bestselling book called
Making Life Rich Without Any Money, has been married to his wife Ramona for more
than two decades. During the first few years there were times, particularly when
Ramona fell extremely ill, when he thought divorce would be the easiest option.
"I look back now and just think, 'Oh my goodness, if I would have [done that],
what I would have missed out on in so many areas."
In fact, Statistics Canada found the first four years of married life were the
hardest, and the risk of divorce declined steadily after that time. Six in 10
divorces occur during the first 15 years of marriage.
"I know this girl. And I love this girl," Mr. Callaway said of his wife. "She
has seen me at my worst. She's been my darling since we were 15 and there's
something incredible about the legacy of faithfulness that we leave behind for
our kids."
Despite the drop in the number of divorces between 2000 and 2002, the Statistics
Canada study found that the number of marriages that
could be expected to end in divorce after 30 years hovered around 37 per cent.
But there were huge regional variations.
In Newfoundland, for instance, the rate was just 21.8 per cent in 2002. That
contrasts with Quebec, where the rate of marriages expected to end in divorce
after 30 years was 47.6. Which is interesting, Dr. Ambert said, because that
province also has the lowest marriage rate.
"My hunch," she said, "is that the divorce rate is still so high in Quebec
because they have a much higher rate of cohabitation before marriage [which] is
followed by a much higher divorce rate."
People who live together before marriage tend to be less religious and have
fewer reservations about breaking up, Dr. Ambert said.
And there is another theory, she said, that living
together changes perceptions about the need for commitment and fidelity.
Hitches and splits
A look at the Canadian institution of marriage as of 2002.
Marriage vs. divorce historically
The number of Canadian marriages and divorces over an 80-year period.
The four-year itch
Divorce rates (per 1,000 marriages) peak at 25.7 in the 4th year, then decrease
slowly with each additional year of marriage.
Custody battles
Of the 35,000 children in divorce proceedings in 2002, who got what percentage,
as well as a historical high.
Custody of 41.8% was awarded to the husband and wife jointly in 2002.
The father:
2002: 8.5%
1986: 15%
The mother:
2002: 49.5%
1988: 75.8%
Marriage problems by province
Most provinces have seen their divorce rate go down between 2000 and 2002. The
chart below shows the percentage of change.
Canada: Down 1.4%
Nfld.: Down 7.8%
PEI: Down 5.1%
N.S. Down 3.1%
N.B.: Down 14.9%
Quebec: Down 3.3%
Ontario: Up 0.1%
Manitoba: Down 1.4%
Sask.: Down 10.7%
Alberta: Up 1.4%
B.C.: Up 1.1%
Yukon: Up 32.4%
NWT: Down 27.7%
Nunavut: Down 14.3%
SOURCE: STATISTICS CANADA
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