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LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
IS NO DIFFERENT IN
ANY LIFE PRESENTATION
FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP..
YOU HAVE 90 SECONDS
TO CREATE LONG LASTING LOVE .... |
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At PVAF In the sharing of knowledge of
veD which is the study of
SCIENCES OF LIFE AND CREATION.....it has been
stressed that the combined overall success in achieving objectives of life
depends on how well one conducts one's 4
puruSHaaARth meaning 4 main objectives of life in a concerted,
balanced and harmonious ways.. Please click on this
PVAF puruSHaaARth Preamble to go to the
veD page and learn or relearn the
basics of each of the 4 puruSHaaARth.
Life needs one's regular and efficient endeavours to sustain with adequate
earnings for oneself and for one's family and for one's life commitments to
society as per the rules and regulations of DHARm...Looking
for subsidy from someone else to sustain life is regarded as an
aDHaaARmik way of life incurring
paap (a
kARm which affects someone negatively and for which one
will have to pay back)....As per the shaasTR
(rules and regulations) of veD,
subsidized way of life is permitted for a time when one has been severely
dis-empowered in life through circumstances beyond one's control and one is
forced to accept subsidy to survive...but then subsidy should be always paid
back with interest.... The life objective for sustenance is called
aARth puruSHaaARth. And
aARth puruSHaaARth has to be achieved
with the rules and regulations of the science called
aARth shaasTR or all that is taught in economics or business
or managment schools and all that can only be learned in
veD.
(The above was shared with you by SRii Champaklal
Dajibhai Mistry form his veD library for you to use the knowledge for
a more prosperous day tomorrow... )
If you desire to be successful at aARth
puruSHaaARth in selling your knowledge and talent or your idea to
earn a living, then as per James Gray who is
a media strategist and communication skills coach in Toronto, Ontario, Canada
the following is his advice:
"We make up our minds about someone new in a hurry. Within the first 90
seconds of a presentation,
- an audience will bond with a speaker or tune out.
- a job interviewer will be impressed by a candidate or dismiss him or
her from contention.
- a prospect will respond to a sales rep or start issuing signals to
get lost.
Those 90 seconds will set the tone for the
remainder of your current interaction, and for the life of a relationship that
results."
Please click on the next line to continue reading some very
enlightening advise for you to succeed when you are presenting yourself to your
fellow humans ......
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You have 90 seconds: Go
By JAMES GRAY
Canadian
Globe and Mail: Friday, October 29, 2004 -
Page C1
We make up our minds about someone new in a hurry.
Within the first 90 seconds of a presentation, an audience will bond with a
speaker or tune out. A job interviewer will be impressed by a candidate or
dismiss him or her from contention. A prospect will respond to a sales rep or
start issuing signals to get lost.
You have a minute and a half, according to the
research, to forge a connection. Those 90 seconds will set the tone for the
remainder of your current interaction, and for the life of a relationship that
results.
Curiously, we often fail to pay enough attention to those critical early
moments, going forward as if everyone already knows, loves and respects us.
"Hey, it's me. I'm great. Now, let me tell you more about me."
Hold up, there. Put yourself in the place of the listener. What would you think
of you? That's a legitimate question as you prepare for all manner of
communication.
Humans have been making lightning-quick judgments about each for thousands of
years.
It's been a matter of instinct - and survival. If you hesitated too long before
determining that the hirsute figure looming in front of you was a member of the
enemy tribe, you'd be quickly dispatched.
As a result, we as a species have tended to err on the side of caution and
occasionally hostility when rendering first impressions.
Even now, we're introduced to a visiting vice-president and we immediately ask
ourselves: Do I like her? Do I trust him? And what's with those shoes?
But if you communicate adroitly, you'll have us hooked by the 90-second mark.
Here are three ways how:
Start with a smile A smile almost universally means: "I'm friendly, not a threat
to your job, so relax already and let me sell you something."
A smile on the face of a well-turned-out corporate
professional conveys a sense of confidence and good will. While a smile doesn't
necessarily convince anyone that you have the goods, it sets the table for you
to demonstrate them.
A scowl, on the other hand, denotes angst and unresolved issues. The glowering
executive operates at a disadvantage.
Start early Most of us overlook the fact that communication often starts before
a formal interaction.
Have you ever walked into a client's building, gotten on the elevator, shot a
disdainful glance at the rumpled Poindexter next to you, only to have him exit
at the same floor, follow you into the same premises and then turn up at the
same meeting - as the decision-maker?
It happens. Don't let it happen to you. Adopt a genial half-smile within a few
blocks of your work-related destination.
At presentations, I'm often baffled by speakers who, before a big speech, will
ignore the audience to study their notes, self-involved and frowning. Then
they'll stride to the podium and expect the crowd to love them unconditionally.
The first 90 seconds commence upon entering the room. That's when presenters
need to begin engaging the audience, through a smile, eye contact and
handshakes.
Start slowly Take the pressure off yourself. If you speak quickly, you're more
likely to flub a line or two.
Keep your sentences short; it's easier to breathe and enunciate. Ask focused
questions of your listeners to learn about their interests and their challenges.
Tell your story with simplicity and sincerity. Leave plenty of space, as pauses,
throughout your narrative to ensure others stay with you every step of the way.
The younger you are, the earlier you need to refer to your credentials and
related experience to establish credibility. The younger you are, the better you
need to dress.
Concentrate on building rapport. Unless you're an accomplished raconteur, avoid
humour.
Why? Because three things can happen when you tell a joke - and two of them are
bad. Your humour can simply fall flat or be received so unfavourably as to
approach the realm of career-limiting.
Why risk it? If you must relate a joke, make it self-deprecating. Even then,
before going public, test it on your most politically correct friend.
Sometimes, we need to cut each other a break in the first 90 seconds. My friend
runs a successful communications firm. He was slowly backing his SUV onto a
downtown street near his office not so long ago when two equipment-toting
cameramen making their way down the sidewalk had their progress temporarily
impeded by his vehicle.
No big deal, right? One of the cameramen thought it was.
"Hey!" he yelled.
My friend told me later that he'd considered responding in kind but thought the
better of it. Instead, he smiled, mouthed the word sorry and gave the aggravated
pedestrian and his companion a wave.
Within a few minutes, he returned to his office. There, standing in the lobby,
were none other than the cameramen. They'd been hired by my friend's firm to
shoot footage for a video news release.
Recognizing him, their jaws apparently went slack.
"Hello," he said, offering up a handshake. "I'm the managing partner here."
For the cameramen, the first 90 seconds no doubt lasted a very long time.
James Gray is a media strategist and communication skills coach in Toronto.
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