EMPLOYMENT UNHAPPINESS IS A SURE WAY FOR PAINFUL LIFE HERE AND HEREAFTER.......
Posted by Champaklal Dajibhai Mistry on February 13, 2005

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CAREER HAPPINESS = FULL RETURN FOR YOURSELF & YOUR EMPLOYER

 DHARm IN CAREER  AS PER veD SCIENCES

Have these thoughts crossed your mind:
  • Just the thought of going to work makes me ill every day.
  • The values in this organization suck.
  • I can't stand the people I work with.

If the above truth is daily with you then you are drifting into career dissatisfaction.

YOUR readiness to acknowledge YOU have a problem and then to act on it has as much to do with YOUR individual differences as it does with YOUR life situation.

Some people are simply quicker to recognize the signs of distress and have a lower tolerance for putting up with a bad situation and resolve to get the distress out of their lives and do so.

Others keep slogging on in silence and suffer physical, mental, emotional and intellectual unhappiness leading to anxiety, depression, neurosis, obsessions, paranoia and delusions which are the causes of UNHAPPINESS IN LIFE.

Not all of us look to our work as an important or principal source of happiness.

But all of us pay a price when our work makes us feel like less than ourselves.

(Extracted form the article on the next page and presented with modifications and additions....continue reading the article on next page learning how you have to break up with your job which makes you unhappy day in and day out...Also in the right hand column read the spiritual consequences of being in an unhappy job and most likely not doing your job 100 percent...)

The unhappiness with one's job does not happen with humans only. It happens even in the other 13-lok (domains) of existence of creations in a universe. We humans exist in pRuthvii-lok which has a shortest span of life term of all the 13-lok...The following is a example from puraaAN texts of not being happy because one cannot do one's job and is thus living in an aDHARmik mode and collecting paap (sin) if still being paid by the employer.....

Once upon time ym-raaj, who reviews previous life-travels (birth to death time duration) of every creation upon its death after each life-travel and determines according to the laws of kARm and DHARm whether one has to go for enjoyment in svARg (heaven) or go to nrk (hell) to experience the same pains that one dished out to others through words, thoughts and actions and prayfully learn from the self-experience never to do the pain-causing kARm in future life-travels.

In a distant past era a king governed and administered  his subjects in entire pRuthvi-lok in such a DHARmik way that all the citizens were doing only DHARmik kARm and nobody was going to nrk because no body committed aDHARmik or paapi (sinful) kARm in their life-times. This meant that nrk (hell) with 300 million sub-divisions for various pain experiences administered by ym-raaj was empty and ym-raaj had nothing to do. ym-raaj knew that according to the rules and regulations of DHARm he was pretending to be in the employment of grandfather pRjaapti bRH`maa and had really nothing to do. Due to his DHARmik conscious he complained to bRH`maa about this situation and asked him to relieve him of his employment or create work for him. bRH`maa knew that his own job is to ensure that his creation design functions as per the creator bRH'm's designs which includes fully functional nrk. Therefore bRH`maa created situations with this king and his kingdom that the king's reign gave opportunities and choices for his subject commit aDHARmik kARm which would lead residence in nrk after each life-travel for most of his subjects...

The moral of the story is that if you are unhappy with YOUR job then you would not be doing a job which return 100 percent for your employer...which in turn means that YOU are collecting full wages for doing a partial job...and THAT SITUATION MEANS YOU ARE COMMITTING AN ADHARmik kARm or paap (sin) for which you will have to pay in nrk...... 

After reading the veDik science of an unhappy job or doing a partial job and collecting a full pay...please click on the next line to read the 21st century science of a unhappy employment from Barbara Moses, PhD, an organizational career management consultant's article in Canadian Globe and Mail...



It may be time to
break up with your job

By BARBARA MOSES
Canadian Globe and Mail: Friday, February 11, 2005 - Page C1

"Help, I'm desperate," an acquaintance who is a conference producer recently e-mailed. "Just the thought of going to work makes me ill. The values in this organization suck, I can't stand the people I work with. . ."

This was not a new feeling. In fact, she's been miserable at work for more than two years. At 33, with no debt and no kids, it's puzzling why she's done so little to address her unhappiness.

That was unlike another woman, a former director of marketing who, at a recent conference told me she was in "the throes of a career crisis" and on the way to resolving it when her husband died. Her grief forced her to put her career issues on hold for six months.

"But when I recovered some of my emotional strength, I realized I couldn't continue in this job. I had two children to support and little in the way of financial resources, so I made a plan which involved selling my house so that I could go back to school and get a diploma in mediation."

Here are two different people handling their job unhappiness in two different ways. It has always fascinated me why some people will tolerate a bad work situation and others won't.

Obviously, money plays a role. But as these two tales show, money certainly doesn't tell the whole story.

We all know people with huge financial resources who will stick out a bad job, or who are making such good money that they feel forced to stick around.

Then there are others who may have limited savings but will jump ship rather than suffer any longer.

The truth is, most people drift into career dissatisfaction. It's not like you go to bed one night feeling fine about your work and wake up the next day hating it.

More likely, unpleasant feelings mount over time but you repress them or tell yourself they will go away -- until, finally, the feelings become so overwhelming that they can no longer be ignored.

Peoples' readiness to acknowledge they have a problem and then to act on it has as much to do with their individual differences as it does with their life situation. Some people are simply quicker to recognize the signs of distress and have a lower tolerance for putting up with a bad situation. Others keep slogging on.

I must confess I have a very quick "I can't stand this" radar. I find it difficult to perform tasks that hold little intellectual challenge or work with people I don't like. Even if I know there will be negative consequences to not completing work, I find it difficult to discipline myself to carry forth.

One human resources professional discussing what is important in her life says that, other than ill health among family members, the worst thing she sees herself dealing with is "bad work."

She actually quit a new job that she'd taken with much fanfare after only two weeks because, she says, "I realized my boss was insane and that I could never deliver what was expected."

It's not just a matter of being attuned to what you are feeling. You also have to be willing to wrestle with, rather than repress, unpleasant emotions. I meet many people who will let slip something that tells me they are unhappy -- a bitter description of their job, for example -- then immediately backtrack and deny these feelings.

One highly talented banking executive was miserable for many years -- but felt it was unmanly to be "taking his emotional temperature."

He also thought his father would be disappointed in him if he quit. After all, this is not the stuff that ambitious, career-building men are made of.

For others, it's not so much a matter of denial as it is of stoicism.

"You're not supposed to like everything you do," a vice-president of human resources told me. "You are making a living and have financial responsibilities. It feels indulgent to be acting on how you feel."

Our sense of competence also plays a role: If you feel you have skills that you can sell, you're much less likely to tolerate a toxic work situation.

But the key word is sense: I have counselled people with a distorted sense of how employable they are, underestimating their talents -- in particular, young people who have had little work experience and those with long job tenure who have not been forced to test the marketability of their skills.

Often, this ties in with feelings of self-worth. People who suffer from low self-esteem are more likely to put up with bad work because they don't believe they deserve any better. Those who value themselves, however, will be more likely to draw the line.

"I wouldn't allow myself to be in a bad personal relationship -- well, work is also a relationship. And if it's bad, it has the same impact on your sense of self," one friend said.


Low self-esteem also makes us doubt our ability to change our situation. It's true that some people -- by virtue of their age, financial position, or skills -- may lack options for change. But even they often overestimate the negative challenge, in particular the money issue. After all, it's really not all about the money, so feeling like you can't afford to make a change isn't a valid excuse.

Who else unhappily hangs in? There are also many who stay put out of a sense of loyalty to their colleagues and staff. These are often caring managers in toxic work environment who feel they have to protect their staff and don't want to abandon them.

But while such loyalty is admirable, it ultimately doesn't serve anyone to sacrifice this way. Rather than shoring up a bad situation, these managers would actually do better to redirect their efforts to helping their staff take the necessary steps to leave -- and join the exodus.

Fundamentally, however, the most important obstacle standing in the way of change is fear.

People are terrified that making a move means they'll have to redefine all their relationships and turn their entire life upside down. They fear that they will crack the comforts they have enjoyed. They fear it will be hard work. And they fear failure: What if it doesn't work out? What could they lose that's important to them?

Not all of us look to our work as an important or principal source of happiness.

But all of us pay a price when our work makes us feel like less than ourselves.


Resolve career distress

How do you overcome all the obstacles in the way of resolving career distress?

  • Hone in on the real issues. Don't use global language like "I hate this job." Be specific in figuring out what you don't like. Sometimes just articulating a specific issue brings insight for a solution which may actually be a minor adjustment rather than a cataclysmic change.
     
  • Acknowledge you have a problem. It doesn't make you weaker. Indeed it takes a strong and optimistic person to say "I am unhappy. I deserve more. I am prepared to identify what I need to do to be happier." Think about the consequences of not doing anything versus the consequences of trying and failing. There are no guarantees in life. How will you feel if you didn't try?
     
  • Don't expect a magic-button solution. Be prepared to live with uncertainty and confusion while you dig through the issues and possibilities. It also takes time to envision what's next.
     
  • Make a plan. It can take a couple of years if you need to get your finances in order, upgrade your education, or develop a network of contacts in a future field.
     
  • Identify what's holding you back. Is it fear of failure, a lack of clear vision, loyalty to others, insufficient confidence in yourself? Whatever it is, face up to it. Write it down or say it out loud. Everyone has these fears. They don't make you foolish. Are your fears and anxieties realistic?
     

 

  • Give yourself permission to dream. Often people feel silly or self-indulgent when they fantasize about a dream job. But it can actually provide important clues about what you feel you're missing and what you need to feel good about your work, whether at the same job or in moving on.
     
  • Don't overestimate the consequences of change. You may fear that your world is going to be turned upside down but once you develop a plan, you will realize, or find ways to ensure that a move will have only a modest impact -- and improve your happiness factor.
     
  • Get support. One of the most significant contributors to successful transitions is having a group of people you can go to for cheerleading. Friends and family can provide important emotional support but they are not experts on work and cannot see you objectively. As well, complex psychological issues often underlie career distress. Considering consulting a career counsellor who can act as a neutral sounding board and provide structure to help you identify the problem, overcome inertia, work through critical decisions and develop a realistic course of action. Check the International Association of Career Professionals for a listing of consultants by location.
     
  • Think about the consequences of not doing anything versus the consequences of trying and failing. There are no guarantees in life: How will you feel if you didn't try?
     

 


  • Barbara Moses, PhD, is an organizational career management consultant, speaker and author of What Next: The Complete Guide to Taking Control of Your Working Life: bmoses@globeandmail.ca


     

 

 

 

 

 



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