veD OF HOW TO NURTURE A CHILD BY PARENTS AND CHILD-PARENT RELATIONSHIP IN veDik and WESTERN CHRISTIAN LIFESTYLES.......
Posted by Ashram News Reporter on May 3, 2007

DHARm OF PARENTS AND TEACHERS ON
HOW TO
NURTURE AND RAISE CHILDREN
Update on Corporal Punishment Worldwide

ICELAND, April 2003: In March of 2003, Iceland's government passed a new law called the Children's Act which calls for "The total abolition of corporal punishment of children by making it unlawful in the home." Article 28 of the new Act states: "It is the parents' obligation to protect their child against any physical or mental violence and other degrading or humiliating behavior."

UKRAINE AND ROMANIA, June 2004: On January 1, 2005, a new Law on the Protection and Promotion of the Rights of the Child in Romania will come into force. The law was originally passed by the Romanian Parliament on June 15, 2004, and it prohibits all corporal punishment. Similarly, the Ukraine enacted a new Family Code in January, 2004, that bans all corporal punishment.

CANADA, January 2005: The news release says, "A Joint Statement on Physical Punishment of Children and Youth has been developed by a national coalition of organizations in Canada. Based on an extensive review of research, the Joint Statement provides an overview of the developmental outcomes associated with the use of corporal punishment: 'The evidence is clear and compelling - physical punishment of children and youth plays no useful role in their upbringing and poses only risks to their development. The conclusion is equally compelling - parents should be strongly encouraged to develop alternative and positive approaches to discipline.' " Presently the criminal code in Canada allows parents, teachers and some other careers to use reasonable force to correct children. However, a judgment of the Supreme Court in January 2004 strictly limits corporal punishment.

SIERRA LEONE AND MALTA, January 2005: Both these countries have commissions that have recommended that corporal punishment be abandoned in both schools and the home environments.

 

Global Initiative logo

The Global Initiative aims to:

  • form a strong alliance of human rights agencies, key individuals and non-governmental organizations against corporal punishment;

  • make corporal punishment of children visible by building a global map of its prevalence and legality, ensuring that children's views are heard and charting progress towards ending it;

  • lobby state governments systematically to ban all forms of corporal punishment and to develop public education programmes;

  • provide detailed technical assistance to support states with these reforms

"A CHILD SHALL BE BROUGHT UP IN A SPIRIT OF UNDERSTANDING, SECURITY AND LOVE. A CHILD SHALL NOT BE SUBDUED, CORPORALLY PUNISHED, OR OTHERWISE HUMILIATED. A CHILD'S GROWTH TOWARDS INDEPENDENCE, RESPONSIBILITY AND ADULTHOOD SHALL BE ENCOURAGED, SUPPORTED AND ASSISTED". (Finland's Child Custody and Right of Custody Act 1983) 

You can visit the web site of the above word-wide initiative called
 END ALL CORPORAL PUNISHMENT OF CHILDREN
by clicking on the hilite of the name...  

Please click on the next line to learn what veD texts and the laws of western Christian governments say about how to raise a child, a child's rights till the child becomes an adult and how the above thinking on child raising and child's right with his/her parents and all the adults who deal with children such as parents and caregivers as compiled and shared herein by SRii Champaklal Dajibhai Mistry from his veD library and peoples of veDik lifestyle and knowledge of western Christian civilizations...



 

 

veD OF NURTURING CHILDREN
IN  A PARENT'S LIFE TIME
(compiled From veD texts)

  • A child to a parent always remains a child from birth to the time the parents die before the death of the child. The degree of responsibility of parents to a child is different at various age and aaSRm (one of the 4 life- stage) of the child and also is dependent on the aaSRm of the parent.

  • In a DHARmik sense a child's parents are morally responsible for child's kARm till the parents death or till the death of the child whichever comes first.

  • From child's birth to 5 years of age parents must give unconditional nurturing love to a child for a child to gain unconditional confidence of trust and loyalty in the parents.

  • From child's 5 years to 17 years of age it is the DHARm of parents and teachers to  give the child an education which includes all the veD = SCIENCES OF CREATION AND LIFE and sNskaar meaning the knowledge of cultured behaviour as per the teachings of veD and shaasTR compatible with the vARAN (birth societal order as per veD), desh (place of residence) and kaal (veDik time interpretation of a day, week, month, year and yug). This education and knowledge should also be such that a child grows into an adult who can self-sustain himself, his family and dependent relatives with employment and also be a contributing members of his/her society and nation This education can continue till the age at which the child can complete the education according to his/her capability to learn. But during this time of education a child should be treated by parents as a friend. And the relationship as a friend is described in veD and shaasTR texts as in always to be there unconditionally with help whenever asked for or not asked for but without interfering in the life-path the child selects naturally.

  • A child up to the age of  12 years cannot be charged by anybody including his parents or even ym-Daev or DHARm-raajaa with criminal offense or found guilty or punished or held accountable for any kARm however aDHArmik it may be.

  • It is the DHARm of the child to follow the instructions of how to live the life from a parent and teachers till the child completes education as noted above.

  • It is the DHARm of a child never to disobey the wishes of parents during the life-time of the parents.

  • It is the DHARm of a parent to ensure that the child is settled in an gainful employment and married and settled in his/her home as per the rules and regulations of DHARm and shaasTR.

  • It is the DHARm of parent to ensure that the child and its spouse is guided to live a life and to raise children as per rules and regulations of DHARm and shaasTR and the rules and regulations of one's vARAN and goTR (family lineage).

  • It is the DHARm of a male child to sustain and care for his parents when they cannot self-sustain themselves in life due to age or any other life factors or happenings. This includes sustaining and caring for his siblings who needs to be sustained and cared for till they reach self-sustaining adulthood in case the parents cannot care for them due to any reason whatsoever.

  • It is the DHARm of a female child to adopt the DHARm and goTR of her husband upon marriage and it is the DHARm of the husband and his family to adopt the wife as total part of his family. That also means the female upon marriage totally adopts her husband's parents as her own parents and other relations of her husband as prescribed by veD and shaasTR and her relationship with her husband and his family has to conform to the promises made mutually during the st-pd (seven steps) viDHi (rite) during the veDik  wedding ceremony.

WESTERN CHRISTIAN CIVILIZATION'S CUSTOM AND LAWS OF NURTURING CHILDREN TO ADULTHOOD AND BEYOND

  • Parents are generally responsible for a all life-needs of child and for all kARm of the child till the child becomes 17 years of age.
  • In most jurisdictions of western Christian societies a child under the age of 12 cannot be charged for any criminal offense or for any contractual relationship and cannot be required to stand trial in a court of law.
  • The parent's obligation is to ensure that a child gets education to the age of 17 as regulated by the government of the state in which the parent and the child resides.
  • After the child reaches 17 years of age, the child does not have to listen or obey to the advice of parents in all aspects of life. A child is regulated by the laws of the government of the state he/she lives in.
  • After a child reaches 17 years of age, parents are not responsible for providing to a child employable education or any life-need assistance a child needs to sustain itself or for its growth till the child becomes self-sustaining.
  • After reaching the age of 17 years a child has no obligations or duty to its parents or siblings does not matter what the circumstances warrants.
  • In spite of the above "no mutual obligations" relationship between a child and parents, a child or a parent can enforce help from each other if the court of laws determines that such help can legally be imposed within the laws of the country.
  • All the relationships between child and its parents are defined and regulated by the laws of the government of the state of residence. Religion only has moral guidance power in child-parent relationship and cannot be enforced by the laws of the government of the state of residence.
  • The relationship of a female with her husband and his birth family and her birth family upon marriage depends upon the faith or religion of each one wants to follow and/or the couple's joint or individual wishes and to conform to the laws of the government of the state of residence.

 

The above is a starter-type synopsis of the central understanding of a child-parent relationship in veDik lifestyle and the lifestyle of western civilizations meaning civilizations of mainly Christian communities. The understanding of the child-parent relationship in communities with various other religious or belief or lifestyle systems will be published as the information is compiled.   YOU are invited to share YOUR knowledge on the child-parent relationship in any community of any religion or belief or lifestyle systems by writing after clicking on the POST A COMMENT button in the header of this item posting.

Or alternatively you can email YOUR knowledge sharing to CHILD PARENT RELATIONSHIP by clicking on the hilite of the subject topic name

 



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